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Interesting facts about Men and their feelings
Men Will Talk About Feelings
Was your guy raised as a traditional, stoic, man's man? If so, let WebMD
walk you through 18 relationship secrets, gathered from psychologists who
study gender roles. Secret No. 1: It may be easier for your man to talk
about feelings indirectly. Ask what he'd do during a romantic weekend. Or
what he thought the first time he met you. His answers will reveal how he
feels and bring you closer.
Men Say "I Love You" With Actions
Some men prefer to express their feelings through actions rather than words.
Your guy may say "I love you" by fixing things around the house, tidying up
the yard, or even taking out the trash -- anything that makes your world a
better place.
Men Take Commitment Seriously
Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests
men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they
want to make sure they are onboard for good. In a survey of currently
married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.
He Really Is Listening
When you're listening to someone talk, you probably pipe in with a "yes" or
"I see" every now and then. It's your way of saying, "I'm listening." But
some guys don't do this. Just because a man isn't saying anything doesn't
mean he's not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about
what you're saying.
Shared Activities Form Bonds
Men strengthen their relationships primarily through shared activities more
than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports
and sex make them feel closer to their partner.
Men Need Time for Themselves
While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves.
Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym,
encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When
both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to
give to each other.
Men Learn From Their Fathers
If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his
dad. Some say men learn about their relationship role by watching and
listening to their fathers. How they are with each other and how the father
relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife.
Men Let Go Faster Than Women
Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering
feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to
dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you
may still want to talk about last night's argument, your guy may have
already forgotten about it.
Men Don't Pick Up on Subtle Cues
Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial
expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman's
face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.
Men Respond to Appreciation
Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he
acts. Take parenting. Studies show that fathers are more involved in
care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as
competent.
Men Think About Sex ... A Lot
OK, so maybe this one is no secret. The majority of men under age 60 think
about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And
that's not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do,
and their fantasies are much more varied. They also think more about casual
sex than women do. But thinking is not the same as doing.
Men Find Sex Significant
It's a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very
important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men
find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying in the context of a committed
relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one
another better than strangers do.
He Likes It When You Initiate Sex
Most guys feel as though they're the ones who always initiate sex. But they
also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more
often. Don't be shy about letting your guy know you're in the mood.
Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction
for both of you.
Guys Aren't Always Up for Sex
Men, much to many women's surprise, aren't always in the mood for sex. Just
like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and
paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, "not
tonight," it doesn't mean he's lost interest in you. He just means he
doesn't want to have sex right then.
Men Like Pleasing Their Partner
Your pleasure is important to your man. But he won't know what you want
unless you tell him. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what
they like and don't like. If you can tell him clearly in a way that doesn't
bruise his ego, he'll listen. Because he knows he'll feel good if you feel
good.
Guys Get Performance Anxiety
Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your
guy may worry about his physique, technique, and stamina. If you can help
him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will
become less stressful.
Men May Stray When Needs Aren't Met
If a man doesn't feel loved and appreciated
in his relationship, he may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man,
that may mean burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on
sports or video games. And some men cheat. To avoid this, partners need to
work together to meet each other's needs.
He's Vested in You
Most men realize there's a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour
-- not just each other's company, but the entire life you've built together.
If you're willing to work to strengthen your marriage, chances are your man
will be, too.
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